6 Things you can do to help a New Mom
Did you miss a baby shower you were supposed to go to? Do you know someone who just gave birth? Not sure what to bring as a gift? Are you a dad who wants to show appreciation to the mother of his child(ren) but stuck on ideas? For some reason figuring something to give or do for a mother is awkward and sometimes stressful. No need to fret anymore because I got you covered! I have a created a great list of things to do to help a new mom, or any mother at that. Take that notepad out and lets get started.
- Offer to BABYSIT: After having a baby, sleep is damn near nonexistent to mothers. If she’s okay with it, come by the hospital or the house to watch the baby for a little bit so the mommy can get a few ZZZZs. Sleep gives us energy and helps our body heal, and is good for our overall health. The mom will appreciate it greatly!! This is especially great to do for new moms with newborns or a mom with multiple children.
- OFFER to CLEAN: When you’re trying to calm a crying baby, change diapers, feed, take care of maybe other children….things get out of hand. Laundry doesn’t get done, dishes pile up and god forbid…. Baby bottles are EVERYWHERE. It’s a lot for moms to do sometimes. Coming over to help and clean will for sure be a blessing! You do not have to do everything but do what you can. Do the child(ren)’s laundry, please please wash the baby bottles *insert crying laughing emoji*. In a house with a child, there is always something that needs to be cleaned
- Offer to COOK: We can barely take care of ourselves sometimes because were so busy dealing with the little ones (Kudos to the moms who can) but a nice home cooked meal will mean a lot. Even ordering some food will do the trick if you can’t cook.
- Check up on her: When I say checkup I mean, call us, text us, ask us how were doing. People assume that because we are mothers they are ‘bothering’ us if they try to connect with us. We need to talk to adults too! We want conversation. In person is even better because it shows that you care to see what we’re doing. Let the mother know you’re available to talk whenever she needs someone.
- Take her out: Every mom needs some SOCIAL time away from all the stress and responsibilities. A girl’s night, a date night, movies, anything that will get her out the house. A lot of mothers who suffer from Postpartum Depression suffer in silence at home, never go out or talk to people. To help prevent that from happening, get her out! Going for a walk and getting Fresh air can do wonders to someone’s mood. No one likes to be cooped up be anywhere so why assume mothers are different? Get on that phone and set something up with her!
- Tell her she’s doing well: Sometimes we need a little reassurance. Let her know how much of a good job she is doing and how great of a mom she is.
Thank me later ;p
Peace, Love & Melanin