9 Ways to keep it SEXY even after you have a Baby

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Valentines Day is tomorrow Mama and you got gum stuck in your hair, spit up on your shirt and you’re losing your $h!t… Time to get it together and to get it SEXY!

  1. Take care of your hair, or fake it till you make it! : Only we moms know the sh*t our hair goes through after childbearing. We got postpartum shedding and kids ripping our hair. Your hair is your crown baby girl so try your best to continue to nurture it. If that’s too much then get braids! Wigs! Weaves! Any protective style that makes you feel good. 
  2. Take Care of the lil kat honey! : If shaving is your thing, do it! Pu$$Y is your power and your treasure. Drink your water, eat your fruits and do your KEAGLES. Make sure that thang right for Valentine ‘s Day night.
  3. A little makeup never hurt NOBADAYY: get yourself dolled up for ya man every once in awhile. With a screaming baby and kids all over the damn place, it’s understandable why you look like you got hit by a truck. (We all look like that) doing makeup can be so therapeutic and give you a little self-esteem boost. 
  4. Get you a little black dress: The color black is slimming and goes with every skin tone. You can never go wrong with it. Put on a dress that makes you go “DAMN I LOOK GOOD”. Honey, you want to turn some heads and break some necks! If that dress doesn’t make you feel like you’re on a runway, it ain’t the one. 
  5. Mani & Pedi: you do not need to go out and pay to get your nails done but if you can, do it! If you don’t want to spend that much, get the supplies you need to pamper yourself. Stepping on LEGOS can mess up those pretty feet of yours (if not fully break a toe bone) And plus you want to make sure your boo, can suck on those thangs!
  6. Take Sexy Pictures: send your boo a little something extra one day! That gesture will be a reminder that you still got it going on. (Always make sure you send it to the right person) Make him crave your body and can’t wait to get off work to get some GOODGOOD. Don’t be afraid to ask for one back too!texting, online dating, dating, relationships
  7. PANTIES: Get those goddam granny panties off girl and go out and buy you something that makes you look like a porn star! Get you a matching bra and panty set. TREAT YO SELF. It is just something about looking good in your underwear that makes you feel soo good and so sexy. Bring out that sex goddess you got locked away! You want something that’s going to make your a$$ and boobs look good.
  8. Get your FREAK ON: If you’re like me, you turned into a whole grandma after having a baby. (granny panties and all) Don’t be like me! Girl you better get a babysitter and make that d!ck appointment! Sex is good for you! Lack of sex can cause irritation, frustration and mess up your whole head. Don’t forget how you got this baby. Brush those cobwebs off and throw that a$$ back for ZADDY. drunk in love, beyonce
  9. Talk to yourself: Self-esteem gets hit hard when you’re a mother. We cannot let the esteem and confidence diminish. Tell yourself every day what a sexy beast you are! Here some suggestions on what you can say to yourself.
  • I got the best pu$$Y in the world
  • I’m a bad b!tch
  • I look so damn  freaking good
  • You a hot mama
  • No man can resist this a$$
  • I am a mother f—–cking Boss a$$ Queen
  • I am Unstoppable

Hope this helps you Hot Mamas out there! Anything you want to add? Comment below!

Peace, Love & Melanin

-The Brown Mom



  1. February 13, 2018 / 1:42 pm

    Yass to all of this! Love it

    • Hadassah
      February 14, 2018 / 6:58 pm

      Thank you girl!

  2. February 13, 2018 / 2:08 pm

    I also struggle with feeling sexy after baby. It can take some motivation on my part, but I always feel sexier when I do something for myself (makeup, dressing up).

    • Hadassah
      February 14, 2018 / 6:59 pm

      making yourself feel better will even make you do better!

  3. February 13, 2018 / 5:12 pm

    I hope you enjoy your Valentine’s day!!

    • Hadassah
      February 14, 2018 / 6:59 pm

      thank you! Hope you do too

  4. Marcie
    February 13, 2018 / 6:23 pm

    I don’t normally wear makeup now that I have 2 little kids, but when I do, I really feel put together! And washing your hair every once in awhile is a great treat!

    • Hadassah
      February 14, 2018 / 7:00 pm

      yes! i love washing my hair

  5. February 14, 2018 / 8:39 am

    I definitely needed to read this!! I am failing on ALL accounts. 😂😂

  6. February 14, 2018 / 9:06 am

    This is great!!! Can’t tell you how un sexy I’ve felt after having my kid. The worst part is I started to not care. Yes yes yes to all of this.

    • Hadassah
      February 14, 2018 / 7:01 pm

      me too girl! i lost myself! we need to get it back!

  7. February 14, 2018 / 9:24 am

    I struggled with this a lot bc of all the weight I had gained. Losing it all helped me get my groove back. I’ve never been one to get all filled up though…my man better like me for me. Haha. How I felt sexy after baby was from him making me feel sexy, wasn’t anything I did really.

  8. February 14, 2018 / 10:02 am

    Great tips! I hope you have a great Valentine’s Day!

    • Hadassah
      February 14, 2018 / 7:02 pm

      thank you! Hope you do too!

  9. Autum Love
    February 14, 2018 / 11:18 am

    I love this!! I’m just now starting to feel sexy 1 year after having my baby! It’s def been a struggle! These are all great tips

  10. February 14, 2018 / 1:39 pm

    These are some wonderful tips. Well timed too! ❤️

  11. February 14, 2018 / 2:00 pm

    Definitely something that it’s hard to keep being so busy with a baby! Great tips!!!!

  12. February 14, 2018 / 6:27 pm

    number 7, yesss girl, get rid of them damn things!

  13. February 15, 2018 / 1:11 am

    awesome tips, most ladies after childbirth they begin to look rough. thanks for highlighting No.7

  14. Annie
    February 15, 2018 / 2:02 am

    Yessss to all of this!!! I struggle with the mani and pedis and always having my hair done….the third baby was a surprise for both me and my hubby and threw me out of my routine I was used to pampering myself since my other two kids are 12 and 9 and more independent….But I’m getting a handle on it….and omg bras I need some sexy bras in my life all I have is nursing bras lol….I need to get my life

  15. Anchal
    February 15, 2018 / 5:01 am

    We need to do all of this. If we dont take care of ourselves, it just gets out of hands. Thanks for these tips

  16. Haley
    February 15, 2018 / 9:02 am

    Omg girl you crack me up! Thanks for sharing this

  17. Farzana
    February 20, 2018 / 9:56 am

    Thnks for tips yaaa coz i have left seeing myself in mirror…..ooooppsss so ugly i look

  18. March 15, 2018 / 8:56 pm

    You are hilarious I love this post!

  19. April 26, 2018 / 10:41 pm

    hair care – yes, i need to pay more attention to that..

  20. Kim
    April 27, 2018 / 12:39 am

    Taking the time to put on cute clothes does help! I tend not to with newborns because it is just going to get messed up. But it is worth it to feel cute and attractive!

  21. April 27, 2018 / 5:20 am

    I love this!! Could not agree with you more about every single one of these!!!

  22. May 4, 2018 / 10:12 am

    Great advice! I always treat myself to mani / pedis 🙂 Event when I was fat and pregnant LOL. Still made me feel put together so to speak!

    • Hadassah
      May 5, 2018 / 9:05 am

      i always to become the girl that did her nails regularly lol Great for you sis!

  23. May 4, 2018 / 3:12 pm

    So darn right. Motherhood is wonderful and all that, but it does end up making us look and feel like grandma’s. Its time to dust those cobwebs off and become fun again.

    • Hadassah
      May 5, 2018 / 9:05 am

      yes! we cant lose ourselves in motherhood

  24. Danielle
    May 5, 2018 / 8:32 am

    hydration is so key – and kegals!

    • Hadassah
      May 5, 2018 / 9:03 am

      yes have to do it on the regular!

  25. May 5, 2018 / 8:02 pm

    Yes! I will fake it til I make it always. Plus I love my monthly manis.

  26. May 5, 2018 / 10:38 pm

    Yesssss. I’m loving the positive vibes in this post! Here’s to keeping it sexy forever and always!

  27. May 31, 2018 / 8:34 am

    I need to push myself to do it! This post inspire me!

    • Hadassah
      June 5, 2018 / 10:31 am

      And you can!

  28. May 31, 2018 / 9:08 am

    Hahahaha yasssss I love this! Get rid of the granny panties 😂😂😂 put on those sexy have him breaking his neck

  29. May 31, 2018 / 5:04 pm

    Agree with ALL this! Really, I think it comes down to being confident, and you CANNOT ignore yourself if you want to have that kind of confidence. No more ignoring yourself to make sure the kid(s) have 100% of their needs met all the time!

    • Hadassah
      June 5, 2018 / 10:31 am

      Moms lose a lot of confidence after child bearing we are bringing it back!

  30. June 1, 2018 / 3:45 pm

    LOL I love your sass! I’m still working on getting my sexy back…

    • Hadassah
      June 5, 2018 / 10:31 am

      Take your time! But remember to take care of you too

  31. June 1, 2018 / 10:01 pm

    lol this is a fun read. I couldn’t imagine myself saying those words listed on the last paragraph of the post 🙂

    • Hadassah
      June 5, 2018 / 10:30 am

      Lol! That’s okay

  32. September 29, 2018 / 7:09 pm

    I have dealt with dandruff all my life! I will give this a try.

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