From Mother to Son: 11 Wishes A Black mother has for son

From Mother to Son: 11 Wishes A Black mother has for son

When I learned I was expecting a baby boy, let’s just say I wasn’t too thrilled about the prospect. After all, this is America and I am a black woman. Bringing a black boy into this world, especially given the racial climate right now, feels incredibly daunting. We all know and hear of the stories of young black men being killed for no reason, and the thought of my child one day being one of those boys is terrifying. Now that my son is here, I cannot imagine life without him. I am still fearful, but I am excited about his future. Here are my 10 wishes for my beautiful black baby boy:

From Mother to Son: 10 Wishes A Black mother has for her son

1. I wish you to find joy and have it every day in your life

2. I wish you to grow up strong


3. I wish you to respect yourself and others

4. I wish you to overcome your obstacles and rise

5. I wish you to know your worth


6. I wish you to grow up without having fear


7. I wish you to be more than a stereotype


8. I wish you a long prosperous life


9. I wish that you learn from your mistakes and move forward


10. I wish you are never put in a bad situation because of your skin tone


11. I wish you to be the king you were born to be


Peace, Love & Melanin
-TheBrownMom

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    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 7:06 am

      Thank you so much for taking the time to read it

  1. December 4, 2017 / 10:18 am

    Great read- I think all mums wish this for their children. I’m a muslim, so I always worry what the future holds for my two little ones. Lets hope the world is a better place once our children venture out alone 😊

  2. December 4, 2017 / 1:09 pm

    #blacklivesmatter. Black. Lives. Matter. Until they really do, this keeps needing to be said. Sounds like you’re raising up a wonderful son, mama.

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 7:07 am

      Thank you sis!

  3. December 4, 2017 / 3:41 pm

    Thank you! ❤️

  4. K
    December 5, 2017 / 8:43 am

    Great post!!! Loved it.

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 7:07 am

      Thank you for reading

  5. December 5, 2017 / 9:28 am

    This is such a beautiful post. Speaks true to black mothers. I wish he will never have to doubt his worth.

  6. December 5, 2017 / 11:24 am

    Wow. This is so powerful and moving — seriously brought tears to my eyes. What a thoughtful, poignant list. I’m hoping *all* our beautiful boys may be able to achieve this and even more!!

  7. Myisha
    December 5, 2017 / 12:08 pm

    This is beautiful. As the mom of a son I know exactly where you are coming from?

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 7:03 am

      Thank you for reading sis. I hoped this post would reach out to people

  8. December 5, 2017 / 12:30 pm

    Wow!!! I can relate so much to this post! Raising a Black boy is a scary but beautiful thing!

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 7:01 am

      Yes it can be but i love my baby boy

  9. December 5, 2017 / 12:50 pm

    Omgosh!! This is so sweet!! I love it!! I would love to share your post to some of my new mommy friends! This touches many of us in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your caring words!

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 7:00 am

      I would appreciate that! Let me know where to send it!

  10. December 5, 2017 / 2:42 pm

    This is a very relatable post for all boy moms. I think regardless of ethnicity we all wish for our boys to grow up this way.

  11. December 5, 2017 / 3:21 pm

    This is such a beautiful post with a much-needed message for our black men/boys- something we definitely don’t see enough of! Thank you for sharing x

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 6:59 am

      Yes we need more positivity for our boys!

  12. December 5, 2017 / 5:22 pm

    Thank you for this beautiful post, Mama! I have a 1-year-old who is the love of my life! His father and I are going to do everything under the sun to give him the life he deserves. I can only pray that the social climate will improve, and his generation can grow up with more acceptance.

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 6:59 am

      Yes ma’am, that’s all we really can do. Thank you for reading

  13. December 6, 2017 / 12:32 pm

    What a powerful post. I have three sons and I experience the same fears as you. Our boys will grow up to be enfluential men as long as we continue to speak greatness into their lives.

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 6:58 am

      We are going to claim it! And speak it everyday

  14. December 8, 2017 / 1:11 pm

    This is inspiring.

    • Hadassah
      Author
      December 9, 2017 / 6:57 am

      Thank you!

  15. January 9, 2018 / 10:17 am

    I love the gifs you made with each wish you had for your son. I think it is really important this day and age to teach a black male his worth. This was a really good post that definitely makes you think.

    • Hadassah
      Author
      January 10, 2018 / 9:13 am

      Yes we need to see more positivity for black boys in our community for sure!

  16. January 9, 2018 / 10:51 am

    This is beautiful and inspiring at the same time. While I’m not a mom yet, I feel like this speaks to the hopes I would have raising a black son in America. Love and light to all the mamas raising these precious boys.

  17. January 9, 2018 / 5:54 pm

    I’m so glad I read this post today! What wonderful words, thoughts, and hopes you put down on paper for your son! I know someday he will read this and be so proud he has a mom like you. He will know and be and do all of these things because he has you there to support him. And, the fact that you are putting these thoughts out into the world for others to read is powerful. People like you are going to make a difference in the way people think. I love posts that give me a glimpse into the perspectives of others.

    • Hadassah
      Author
      January 10, 2018 / 9:10 am

      Thank you Ashley! I’m glad this post can touch you.

  18. January 10, 2018 / 12:48 pm

    This is beautiful. My son and only child will be 15 this year and has such a gentle spirit that I cringe at the thought of him experiencing any potential hardships, especially in this climate. Although I’ve seen how others sometimes mistreat him, I’ve also witnessed how much others embrace and encourage him. More importantly, I see how he’s continuing to grow and utilize those “gems of wisdom” that his father and I instill in him and he’s much stronger than I ever realized. I’m learning more from him than what he knows and I’m enjoying the journey of nurturing and watching him grow…and they do grow up fast! Thank you for this post. It’s an absolutely beautiful wish list! XoXo

  19. March 20, 2018 / 10:05 am

    This post made me a little emotional! I cannot imagine how that much feel! I am not white but I live in a more accepting country. You will be a great mum! Let’s hope things change!

  20. March 20, 2018 / 9:16 pm

    I also have a son and I try not to think about the horrible things this world has done but it is part of our reality. Beautiful post to share!

    • Hadassah
      Author
      March 21, 2018 / 11:33 am

      I hope it gets better by the time they grow up

  21. March 20, 2018 / 10:50 pm

    These are so perfect! You are an amazing Mama <3

  22. March 20, 2018 / 11:37 pm

    This is beautiful

  23. Emily
    March 20, 2018 / 11:51 pm

    This is perfect and powerful! I love that you said that you wish he knows his worth – that is so important!

  24. March 21, 2018 / 10:27 am

    Thank you, what a very touching post! Can’t wait to read more.

    • Hadassah
      Author
      March 21, 2018 / 11:30 am

      Thank you for reading

  25. Clair
    March 21, 2018 / 4:51 pm

    I absolutely love every single wish you listed out for your son! Beautiful momma! He will know that he can accomplish all things and be that king he is intended to be with you as his mother 💕

  26. Kaelin
    April 3, 2018 / 9:52 pm

    I love this! My mother may not have said these things as plainly but I know she felt exactly how you feel. I feel like you’re speaking for all mothers, and as an only son I want to say thank you for speaking for the strong mothers in this world!

  27. Angela Oden
    April 8, 2018 / 12:28 am

    Very beautiful and sad all in one bc we have beautiful men that Gid has made.

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